How Do the Japanese Say Thanks

Discover the cultural norms and expressions of gratitude in Japanese society, including proper phrases, bowing etiquette, and gift-giving customs.

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Introduction

Gratitude is deeply embedded in Japanese culture, with specific expressions, gestures, and customs related to giving thanks. Understanding these practices is essential for respectful interactions in both personal and professional settings.

Cultural Context

In Japanese culture, expressing gratitude is tied to important values like respect (敬意, keii), harmony (和, wa), and maintaining face (面子, mentsu). The Japanese approach to gratitude often emphasizes sincerity, humility, and acknowledgment of social hierarchy.

Gratitude in Japan often involves the concept of "on" (恩), which represents a debt of gratitude that should be acknowledged and repaid.
The depth of a bow when expressing thanks correlates with the level of gratitude and the social status of the recipient.
In business settings, expressing thanks may be more formal and accompanied by gift-giving, especially at year-end (お歳暮, oseibo) and mid-year (お中元, ochugen).
For the Japanese, a verbal "thank you" is often expected to be accompanied by appropriate body language, particularly bowing.
Reciprocity is a fundamental concept—if someone does something for you, there's an expectation to return the favor in some way.

Common Thank You Phrases in Japanese Culture

Phrase	Pronunciation	Context	English Meaning
ありがとう	Arigatou	Casual expression used among friends, family, and people of equal or lower status	Thank you
ありがとうございます	Arigatou gozaimasu	Polite expression used in everyday situations with strangers or superiors	Thank you (polite)
ありがとうございました	Arigatou gozaimashita	Past tense form used to express gratitude for something that has been completed	Thank you (for something done in the past)
どうもありがとう	Doumo arigatou	Emphasizes gratitude in casual situations	Thank you very much (casual)
どうもありがとうございます	Doumo arigatou gozaimasu	Formal expression for significant gratitude in business or formal settings	Thank you very much (formal)
お礼申し上げます	Orei moushiagemasu	Very formal expression used in business correspondence or formal speeches	I express my gratitude (formal)
感謝しています	Kansha shiteimasu	Expresses deeper, heartfelt gratitude for significant acts	I am grateful

Gift-giving Customs

Gift-giving is a significant aspect of expressing gratitude in Japanese culture. The presentation of the gift is often as important as the gift itself, with meticulous wrapping and proper handling considered essential. When receiving a gift, it is customary to refuse it once or twice before accepting, and gifts are typically not opened in front of the giver unless specifically requested to do so.

Do's and Don'ts

Do's

Present gifts with both hands to show respect
Wrap gifts beautifully, preferably in quality paper
Include a greeting card or message with the gift
Choose high-quality items that represent thoughtfulness
Consider seasonal gifts that reflect awareness of Japanese traditions

Don'ts

Don't give gifts in sets of four or nine (associated with death/suffering)
Avoid overly expensive gifts that might cause embarrassment
Don't wrap gifts in white paper (associated with funerals)
Never give used or damaged items as gifts
Don't insist that the recipient open the gift in front of you

Gratitude Traditions and Customs

Orei (お礼)

A formal expression of gratitude, often accompanied by a gift (orei no mono) to repay someone for their kindness or assistance.

Demonstrates the importance of reciprocity and not remaining indebted to others.

Ochugen & Oseibo (お中元・お歳暮)

Mid-year and year-end gift-giving traditions where presents are given to people who have helped you throughout the year.

These seasonal customs formalize gratitude and maintain harmonious relationships.

Ojigi (お辞儀)

The practice of bowing, with different depths and durations of bows indicating different levels of respect and gratitude.

The physical embodiment of gratitude, showing humility and respect through body language.

Thank You Visits (お礼参り)

Visiting someone's home or workplace specifically to express gratitude for significant help or favors.

Shows that the matter was important enough to warrant personal effort and face-to-face interaction.

Cultural Etiquette

Understand Bowing Etiquette

A 15-degree bow is appropriate for casual thanks, 30 degrees for business settings, and 45 degrees or more for expressing deep gratitude. The depth and duration of your bow should match the significance of what you're thankful for.

Be Mindful of Timing

Express gratitude promptly in Japanese culture. For significant favors, an immediate verbal thank you should be followed by a more formal expression (like a thank you note or gift) within a few days.

Choose Appropriate Language

Always consider the social hierarchy when selecting which "thank you" phrase to use. Using too casual an expression with a superior can be considered disrespectful.

Express Humility

When receiving thanks, respond with 'iie' (no) or 'tondemonai' (not at all) to indicate that the favor wasn't a burden, showing modesty about your own contributions.

Remember Repeated Thanks

In significant situations, expressing gratitude multiple times is not considered excessive but rather demonstrates sincerity. Follow up an initial thanks with a subsequent expression of gratitude in another form.

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